Why I ended wedding plans after engagement – Simi Drey
Award-winning British-Nigerian presenter and actress Simi Drey has opened up about the reason she ended her called off her wedding after her engagement to her former lover.
In a recent interview, the movie star revealed that she let go of her former partner because she discovered the engagement didn’t bring her happiness or fulfillment.
The media personality added that she faced criticism after the cancellation.
“My ex and I didn’t have a perfect relationship. He never cheated, never was abusive. But you know when you are not 100% fulfilled or happy. We do live in a part of the world where marriage is heavily emphasized, especially for women. My parents never pressured me, but I remember my friends asking me, ‘When will you get married?’
“Eventually, he proposed. I remember having this apprehension—‘Is he really the person I am going to marry?’ I was very close to my mum. When I told her that I was engaged, she said, ‘Simi, don’t do this.’ But I told her everything is fine.
“My mom is not the type who would ever stop me from doing something or blacklist me. But she knew I wasn’t feeling whole in the relationship. I called my dad and ended the call in tears of apprehension, not joy.
“Two months later, I called my fiancé and said that we should work on our relationship first, and then maybe we can think about marriage.
“A month later, I didn’t feel I wanted to marry this man because I wanted to marry with worth. I ended the engagement with him. And I received more criticism from people around me, but I had to be truthful to myself that I wasn’t happy in the relationship.
“It was after I left that reality hit me. I realized that being single and happy is better than being married and miserable. If I do not feel respected or feel a man is superior to me because of his title or finances, it is a no.”
