Toke Makinwa is a popular OAP who is well-loved for her fashion sense and love for make overs, which she sometimes goes overboard.
The on air personality has recently opened up about how she felt when she finally walked out of her marriage with Fitness Coach Husband, Maje Ayida.
Unlike what many thought that it wasn’t so difficult for her, as she was the one who initiated a divorce months after her estranged husband cheated and impregnated his ex-girlfriend.
She recently bared it all in a recent interview with Fame Extra, where she covered the front page of the magazine.
She revealed that on her way home from her very first date after her divorce, she cried herself home.
This feeling is very common, when you have to start all over again, knowing and understanding a new person, going through that phrase all over can be overwhelming.
She said: “It’s tricky! It’s exactly like learning to ride a bike again but I think I am doing very well. Of course you get the initial stumble and fall off but the key is to accept that things are different now and that’s ok. My first date after my separation, I cried on my way home as I couldn’t believe I was back dating again, the stress and joys of getting to know someone again, the excruciating pain of the past and the will to trust another again.”
“People are not honest enough! You are told to keep quiet about everything like showing a sign of ‘all is not well’ automatically means you have a bad marriage. The thing is, everyone struggles, no situation is perfect and if people walked around with a little bit of honesty about their situation, a lot of marriages might survive. Religion is also a very big problem, God is involved in Marriage and he has also blessed us with the capacity to think and make decisions for ourselves so people need to be less religious and more aware of His love. There will be way less judgement.”
“So much goes on in a home and you are told to keep mute, keep taking, pray till your knees get dark from kneeling (which is a good thing, don’t get me wrong), but a lot of people lose who they are trying to keep with all of these mandates that doesn’t always work. I am not saying you should go around telling everyone your business but I feel if we had more people open up about their struggles and a society that is less judgmental, people will begin to appreciate the beauty of seeing two people work at staying together and realizing the sheer amount of work required on both sides.”
