In this part of the country that we live in, single mothers are been looked down upon and perceived as irresponsible people.
There are often stigmatized like someone battling from a deadly disease that could be contagious.
I often wonder why its always like that despite the level of exposure in Nigeria, in abroad it’s never so.
Many women are single mothers by circumstances not by choice, only if you take your time to get close to them before you will be able to hear their stories.
Her is an inspiring story of a single mom of two, Nora Oma who struggled with an abusive story, rather than losing her life she opted for a divorce and her husband stripped her naked of all her assets.
She walked out from the marriage with her life and two kids, started from the scratched and today December 31st 2016 she married a handsome man who is wealthy and never been married before.
Single mothers are no second class citizens; they are human with stories and needs to be loved like every other woman.
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When Nora Oma Patrick told me she was getting remarried, I screamed for joy and started dancing. When I saw the wedding pictures, I couldn’t contain my excitement. I was jumping up and down, happy excited and even crying tears of joy, I told Nora her wedding got me more excited than mine, I don’t think she understood, she must have assumed I was some crazy person lol
For people who may not understand my excitement let me tell you a little about Nora and her journey.
Nora got married very young, she was young and innocent, she assumed she would like a life of happily ever after but soon that illusion was shattered with abuse and serial cheating. The peak of her tumultuous relationship with her ex was when she just had a baby and he wanted to hit her on the hospital bed.
Nora has a truck load of painful experience from her first marriage, she tried everything to make it work. She tried being submissive, more submissive, see nothing say nothing. It didn’t work, it got to the point that her ex husband’s mistress started calling her to threaten her that she would get thrown out. She tried praying and fasting even consulting pastors who claimed they saw several visions on how her home would be restored, they took her money yet the nightmare remained.
Finally Nora decided she was done, her ex was taken unaware, he begged her small little did Nora know it was a plan to hide assets Anyway when Nora finally left, she was left with NOTHING, she had to start her life afresh with two kids and a serious and long custody battle.
Nora didn’t give up and go back to her ex to beg, Nora wore her big girl pants took responsibility for her life, her kids and got to work. She worked as hard as was humanly possible, got her life back on track and got to a comfortable place for herself and her kids.
Her mother was her biggest supporter through this hard times The thing that endeared me to Nora when I read her stories and the challenges with a bad marriage was that Nora never ever turned into a bitter men are evil hating woman.
She was still Nora, kind, trusting, caring and still believed in love On her wedding day Facebook almost crashed with so many beautiful pictures, because Nora is the sweetest person you can ever meet, loyal to a fault even when sometimes you feel she is letting people take advantage of her but Nora just takes it all so gracefully and flashed her killer smile Nora would send beautiful packages for several friends and their kids, if you tell Nora you love a dress Nora would inbox ask for your size and send.
So Nora met this young, fine, Hawt never been married dude who was kuku begging for over a year for Nora to marry him.
See, most times women would refuse to leave dead end marriages because according to them nobody would marry them again after kids, some would say they can only marry divorcees and widowers but Nora married a brand new Igbo man, Canadian citizen no visa wahala has his own great paying job and money before bad belle people will say na money the man dey find. Sadly she lost her mother two days to her wedding.
Here is a toast to Nora and her handsome husband, wishing them all of life’s beauty and grace. For those who stay in bad relationships because they do not want to make adult decisions for their safety and that of their kids I hope Nora inspires you today. Great things happen when you take charge of your life.