Wosikonko | 8/30/2009 9:40:24 AMYou better go back to your husband, if he is still willing to accept you.
No husband outside oh!!!!!!!!!!!
No matter wat , you should have known 4rm the begining that marriage is not a bed of roses.
This is happening to you cos you did not look b4 you leaped.
Go back b/4 its 2 late.
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cnn | 8/30/2009 9:45:25 AMWhat sort of ill wind is blowing on marriages in Africa these days? Monalisa, please go back. The devil inside is better than the angel outside.
Go back. Single mothers are often very lonely. Be warned.
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wopso | 8/30/2009 9:49:08 AMMonalisa,Monalisa,Monalisa how many times did i call u?hhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm ok
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Baby girl | 8/30/2009 9:56:43 AMBoth of you still love each other, judging from what you have both said here. Monalisa, please dont file a divorce. Just go away for a while, so that the tensions on both sides can calm down.
But I suspect your quarel is all about money. Maybe your husband wants to know how you spend the cash that has been coming to you recently. But you see, it can be sorted out. It is not out of place.
Both of you dont seem to have any strong reasons that warrant divorce. Your husband patiently waited for five years for you to give him a child. Monalisa, think twice, before it is too late. Dont let the devil use you. There are demons in form of friends and family members who enjoy destroying marriages. Dont let them destroy yours. Before you know it, the same people will laugh and jeer at you.
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NA | 8/30/2009 9:58:57 AMMonalisa marriage na for better and for worst!
As for me not every one is meant to be married! some people are better of being single, not every man or woman was sent on this earth for the aim of getting married, so those who don't get married should stop stressing out, maybe you wouldn't be happy in your marriage.
People should learn to think twice before saying "I DO".
It's not today you say "I DO "and tomorrow you wake up and say" I DON'T"
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ugo | 8/30/2009 10:09:08 AMMarriage wahala! I tire-o! My dear, if you are sincere that you still have respect for him , then go back! Respect is one of the essential ingredients in marriage. I think you can still make it work, if that respect still exist.
My baby girl, welcome-ooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!
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Yori Yori | 8/30/2009 10:37:28 AM'Monalisa my girl where thou art'?Why do you wanna disappoint us.I think you have been influenced by your close friends.Your remarks that your marriage has broken down irretrievably,when obviously you've not done much to revive it says much about it.Telly you what!There's no marriage without problems but the ability to resolve any marital wahala is called maturity.
Pls my Mona,your hubby still wants you back and since you still respect him this much as u said,i think you can make it work.ceteris paribus!
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lola | 8/30/2009 10:41:29 AMSo all the bragging about being your husband's slave and foot stool couldn't save your marriage???
Marriage is a partnership and the foundation of a family. Both partners have to be strong so that they can rely on each other and weather the storms of life together in faith and in the fear of God.
If you enter a marriage with the idea that you are submissive and your husband's slave, that union is bound to crash. No one loves slaves, especially not the slave drivers themselves. Nonsense!!!!!!!!!!
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fat girl | 8/30/2009 10:45:47 AMBabygirl u are right. At this time and age a man waits for FIVE YEARS before his woman can give him their first child, he really must love her darely. Monalisa stay in your marriage and make it work, its a jungle out there. If u have anyother man out there who is promising u everlasting love and care, better forget that man and have a quick rethink. Think of the good old days and think of your little daughter.
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 8/30/2009 10:50:06 AMSo this long aged rumour has finally matured kpata kpata. Well! We can never know what actually transpired b/w them, but one thing is sure. Monalina has come of age, she knows what's best 4 herself. It's her game and her world. Good luck in whatever way!!!
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A 4 Agegebread | 8/30/2009 11:11:48 AMGiving up is selfish when there is already a child to consider. To end your marriage because you are bored, lonely or disenchanted with your spouse is immature and selfish. Children deserve to live with and be loved by both their parents on a daily basis. Once you chose to have children you gave up the right to make decisions based on how you feel. Becoming a parent meant that every decision you make from the moment they were conceived would be in the best interest of the child.
Arguing is counter productive, learn to discuss things rationally and always leave the past in the past. Take all of the energy that would be spent arguing and use it to make improvements in your communication skills. Monalisa Marriage is worth keeping. I like you so much as an actress, I wish you and your family all the best.
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Meg | 8/30/2009 12:08:58 PMMungo, I need your opinion. What advice do you have for are sister whose marriage just crashed?
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me | 8/30/2009 12:09:14 PMwith d way u talk about ur marriage this is d least i xpect of u , n u sound like a born again xtain in most of ur interview ........ay advice .., thus d bible say we can divorice on d ground of adultery, that same bible says we should forgive n forgive again n again so my dear think twice d devil u know.........
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Lady d | 8/30/2009 12:10:09 PMMonalisa u should know dat devil does not love marriage
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Baby girl | 8/30/2009 12:11:32 PMSSS, where art thou?
Ugonna, my love, thank you. You are a wonderful person. I hope that someday, I will meet you in person. Maybe when am back to London, we talk about it.
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Meme | 8/30/2009 12:18:13 PMMoalisa, I feel a little disappionted to hear this. I cannot judge you, bcos I dont know what has transpired. Just that I didnt expect. Please, retrace your steps. Give peace a chance. Filling a divorce is too fast a decison. 'Pipe down abeg.'
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Amen | 8/30/2009 12:22:14 PMThis what I term 'The nollywood curse.' Every married man/woman, ends up with a divorce, even for no tangible reason.
Monalisa, the birth of your baby after a long wait is supposed to bring joy and peace, not divorce.
Hope you know what you are doing?
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Mary B | 8/30/2009 12:30:51 PMW. my girl please GWS! you are a fighter and i know that you can fight this. I am praying for you and i miss you. Monalisa, i think you are one of the few Nollywood actresses that can be said to possess both inner and outwards beauty. Try to reconcile your differences with your husband and make it work. Marriage is not a bed of roses, i can tell you this because i have been married for less than two years and we 've had more arguments within this period than the four years courtship period. Go and make it work Mona!
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wopso | 8/30/2009 1:11:02 PMFat girl n baby girl what do u mean by after the husband waited for her for 4 yrs to give him a child.u sound as if u are so sure the fault was hers.hope u are not of the african mentality that attributes every fertility problem to women
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John | 8/30/2009 1:27:50 PMPlease go back to your husband house; If He is willing to accept you, If not willing please beg Him.
There is severe austerity of husband. I'm your Fan I would have welcome you or marry you but fortunately I'm a married Man. In the interest of your daughter, please go back
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Zico | 8/30/2009 1:28:41 PMMona Lisa's case is like that of a dog that has determined to get lost, of course, it will not listen to the whistle of the hunter. Her marriage did not crash irretrievably when she was without a child for five years, it did not crash when they were going through domestic misunderstandings. Now she has been named a Glo Ambassador and has been paid 'heavily'' by Mike Adenuga's Globacom, suddenly her levels has changed and she found that she cannot continue with the marriage. See your life?
Hope you will invest the money well lest it finishes and you come back begging poor Deji, that is after you might have graced the bed of several guys will give you daily meal.
A word is enough for the 'f**l'!
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Olu | 8/30/2009 1:34:20 PMAgege,Yori yori,Baby girl,Ugonna,wasinkoko,Mary b,etc.U all have spoken very well.However i have a question,do guys think that infidelity has a stake in all of this?if yes what do u guys recommend they should do in this regard or is divorce more appropriate?Ur contributions pls.thanks.
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Zico | 8/30/2009 1:37:43 PMMona Lisa's case is like that of a dog that has determined to get lost, of course, it will not listen to the whistle of the hunter. Her marriage did not crash irretrievably when she was without a child for five years, it did not crash when they were going through domestic misunderstandings. Now she has been named a Glo Ambassador and has been paid 'heavily'' by Mike Adenuga's Globacom, suddenly her levels has changed and she found that she cannot continue with the marriage. See your life?
Hope you will invest the money well lest it finishes and you come back begging poor Deji, that is after you might have graced the bed of several guys will give you daily meal.
A word is enough for the 'f**l'!
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sss | 8/30/2009 3:21:05 PMHello babygirl, I am glad you are back.I have missed your comment,hope you are fine.
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Fella's | 8/30/2009 3:35:52 PMMonalisa, u're among my top 5 actresses i trip at. When i heard dis news initial my ear drum starts throbbing but i took it as a mere speculation from d medias. But now, it is obvious dat monkey don go market n e nor come back. Monalisa why hav u made me starting taking against you. Let me tell u, they don't buy marriage on debit. Stop thinkin dat dis handsome man has bought u on d never-never and refused 2 pay. He is trying 2 reach u but u keep fumbling. Or wat AMEN said about nollywood marriage curse has fallen b4 u? At least hold on 2 ur initial speech n take a bold step 2 break dis ice. Marriage is so-so, u don't xpect it 2 b perfect neither do u want it 2 be without misunderstanding and outburst in it.
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chioma | 8/30/2009 3:53:37 PMBaby girl welcome, zico you did not speak well of monalisa or are part of this? mahabone, you spoke my mind, of course monalisa is an adult that knows what is right for her, and let's not jump into conclusion, this is just breaking news.
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beck | 8/30/2009 4:05:15 PMjesus christ my heart bleeds. what the hell is this? monalisa plsssssssssssssss go back.
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CHOVWE ADEDE | 8/30/2009 4:24:11 PMI will read later and comment for now, I thank everyone who commented.The site is colourful again.Good to see that CNN and Babygirl are back.CONGRATULATIONS TO EACH AN EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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A 4 APPLE | 8/30/2009 5:16:18 PMwhat is happening in nollywood e be like say na only the men der marriage still de intact,well monalisa u only nos the reason why u left ur home,think well b4 u go to court becos husband no de town dis day,i think nollywood needs rebranding in the area of marriage,abeg mummy Dora help us and rebrand nollywood
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Joyce | 8/30/2009 5:21:52 PMMonalisa kindly protect ur marriage jealously men are all the same. The first key of marriage is tolerance and patience, i ve bn married for 6 years now any woman that tells u her marriage is hitch free is deceiving u, marriage is not bed of roses. pls go back to ur home becos of ur beautiful daughter, do not give room for rumours. pls settle ur differences, i want to belief this is just a rumour and it will not become a reality. Shikena
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Joyce | 8/30/2009 5:21:53 PMMonalisa kindly protect ur marriage jealously men are all the same. The first key of marriage is tolerance and patience, i ve bn married for 6 years now any woman that tells u her marriage is hitch free is deceiving u, marriage is not bed of roses. pls go back to ur home becos of ur beautiful daughter, do not give room for rumours. pls settle ur differences, i want to belief this is just a rumour and it will not become a reality. Shikena
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xty | 8/30/2009 5:40:09 PMmonaliza , u don hear , go back , , a woman builds her home , everywoman under goes stress in thier marriage , a home without marriage palaver is not home , all u need to do is use your head , . remeber is not the load that breaks you down its the way you carry it .
everyman and woman has fault , all we need to do is try and amend., dont be a quitter, your world is as big as you make it , you must act as if it is impossible to fall.
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sir kay | 8/30/2009 6:14:50 PMplz go back to ur husband, remember u are once married before u married dejo and now u want a divorce, people will be counting the numbers of ur husband for u, for the sake of ur daughter go back, did u remeber how long its takes u guys to have ur baby, he must have relly loved u to wait that long in this modern days. The bible dosent want divorce.
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jimmy | 8/30/2009 6:29:29 PMbetter open your eyes,why are you not try and learn for other plp mistake.? you want to jump on board the sinking boat.no matter how beautiful you are and how much you get ,if you are lucky to get new huss he won't have you too much respect ,because you be divorcee or 2nd hand,unless you married a lazy man.beter go back NOW NOW !
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Ugo | 8/30/2009 6:37:54 PMI dont think it has something to do with infidelity. If you ask me, I will say ot is economy. Monalisa's income has tripled recently. It could be connnected to that.
Wopso, Monalisa had about 2 miscarriaages, before her duaghter was born. This means it is not likely the mans fualt.
I never knew Richards is monalisa's second husband. Just hearing it for the first time.
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bibi | 8/30/2009 6:56:15 PMMona luv, pls go back to ur husband, i know there are issues you dont want to talk about but that is not important for now. marriage is not a bed of roses, pls commit everything to God in prayer, and allow him to guide you aright. May God be with you in the decision you make. Amen!
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akajoromi | 8/30/2009 7:15:15 PMi know say u cant stay under a man ...what sort of differences u did not see b4 marring him come out please make we see better toto f**k when are u starting?Abi pikin still dey suck breast?
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egobaby | 8/30/2009 8:14:01 PMoh is dis her 2nd marriage? hmm..she might nt get dat lucky d 3rd time if so...mona think twice b4 u walk out of dat door...4get all those pple who r hailin u n callin u gbo gbo big girl...a word is enuff 4 d wise...
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Yori Yori | 8/30/2009 8:21:15 PMOlu my friend,Ugonna nwannem has spoken extensively on the infidelity motion you tendered.However Ugonna, given the economic divide which is likely the cause of their problems as you stated above.Consequently,does it mean that "when money comes,women come and when money goes,women go"?*rolling eyes*
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Fella's | 8/30/2009 8:26:52 PMAkarojomi, i beg neva start 2 beef am. But if she stil kip sayin rubish abt her husband again, i go join u beef am welli well
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Meme | 8/30/2009 8:43:10 PMYou know men feel intimidsated when their wives are richer. So, maybe he wanted to decide how monalisa income will be spent. No woman will agree to that.
It is not infedlity/ I also think it is the money.
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CHOVWE | 8/30/2009 9:23:37 PMGod save this generation and Nollywood from the divorce epidermy.AMEN!
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Yori Yori | 8/30/2009 9:37:08 PMMeme this issue of women and money is becoming a bit scary to me.Meme please for emphasis,Am a full fledged muscular Farmer,who reside in my Villa.Admittedly am not very handsome(if u like say worwor) but am very hardworking and dedicated to my job.The bad news is that i got no money which you said all women crave for,However the good news is that i am very caring.All these and taking into account the common Nigerian parlance which states thus: "Good food na money make am".Meme now my questions are as follows.
1)Do i still stand a chance to get a woman who wouldn't mind my present economic predicaments?If yes...
2)What kinda woman would agree to stick with me(i mean her levels)?
3)Will any woman from Akata agree to marry a village Man(Yoris)?
I'm expectantly waiting for your response please!!
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Olu | 8/30/2009 10:09:54 PMUgo,yori yori and meme i thank u guys for the replies.God bless u all.
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kimmy | 8/30/2009 11:30:52 PMI am sorry to hear this, but try and go back and work whatever the problem is with him, if it doesn't work out, u go your separate ways.
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nina | 8/30/2009 11:54:59 PMGuys maybe d husband was meesing around & f++king oda women,u never know,men can be silly at times,they cant keep their thing in control.
and yori gori to answer ur question.every girl wants a rich man,a handsome man and very sexy.so there is no possibiity that a village/ugly man would get a nice lookin and educated girl,believe me i 4 one wont do it.SHOE GET SIZE ABEG.
so go find ur level.i repeat every woman love good money.
nina
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N/A | 8/30/2009 11:58:49 PMUgonna
Yori Yori | 8/7/2009 6:42:40 PM | my-villa
Ugo nwannem i dey like 'Delegiwa'.Ugo a friend of mine who lives abroad called me a fortnight ago and asked me to look for a kokollete(idea woman),in my villa for him to marry.However i adviced him to find a wife himself from there but he bluntly refused saying thus: "All the girls in Akata are not Ideal",and that left me gutted.Ugo is it true?Pls what is it like over there with regards to Kokolletes- as i have never left my villa b4 hence my ignorance(Beyond imagination!).Lest i forget,i glanced tru ur Novel a few days ago!
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Ugonna | 8/7/2009 8:51:43 PM | Stk-SW
My brother, there are good people everywhere and there are bad people every where too. Only God joins two people together. So, I advice any man looking for a wife to hand it over to God. Through prayers God can lead you to a woman you be happy with. In marriage it is good to look beyond the physical. It is the inner beauty that matters. That inner beauty can only be seen with spiritual eyes. That is why it is good to pray, otherwise, one will land into a big mess by making a wrong choice. So, tell your friend to pray seriously about it. He can choose a spouse any where. The worst thing that can happen to any man or woman is to make the wrong choice in marriage. It can ruin your entire being.
As regards my book - Beyond Imagination, why dont you just make time and read it, instead of glancing? I will be glad to hear you read it and let me know what you think when you have done so. We keep in touch.
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Yori Yori | 8/7/2009 11:05:07 PM | my-villa
Ugonna nwannem!Pls dont mind me,i'd definitely find time to read it through.However i barely find it difficult to read these days,maybe 'cos of the loads of work that am currently doing on my Farm.As You are aware,this is harvesting period and i couldnt allow my YAMS to get stolen by 'Yam kidnappers' in my villa hence am gathering the crops myself.Ugo,the "iri ji" festival is underway and i hope you're coming home for it?
Thanx for your advice to my friend and i'll relay the massage to him forthwith.Much resp.!
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YORIS!!!!
Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 8/8/2009 8:40:03 AM | Tokyo-Japan
Yori! this one na kool business if u can run things properly. Or abi na u wan marry? E bi like say u wan cari go 4 that yo babe wey dey UK, so u take style dey collect info abt akatas. Guy man, abeg beware of akatas, most of them na "ugwu ana-ari atu egwu.
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G.MASTER!!!
Yori Yori | 8/8/2009 10:09:29 AM | my-villa
Grand Master how go dey go?Finding a Kokollete for someone in ur place isnt a business or is it?Dont forget that the guy in question comes from the same villa as me therefore he knows the requirements already,which is-4pieces of Kolanut,10 kegs of palmwine,1 bowl of aligator pepper and 5 shillings.Having said this,G.MASTER pls tell me the kool business here as u claimed.However I hope ur not suggesting that i should inflate the number of the palmwine to 20 kegs 'cos am not a DRUNKARD.Now to answer ur other question(i wan marry?): My family do not allow polygamy unless you want me to incur the wrath of "Ndi Nna Ochie".Like i always say,-"A Breast at hand is worth more than TWO in the Bra"!!
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 8/31/2009 12:43:48 AMWe don't know yet what brought about this saga, and we may never get to know the real truth. The views expressed here were mere speculations, why nobody is talking about the hubby? As far as i know, marriage is a joint venture, but here we make it sound like it's the sole responsiblity of MONALISA alone to protect this marrriage. What part did the guy play in this sudden break up in the first place? Ok! if we 're to go down the memory lane, that's judging from the way MONALISA portrayed and protected her hubby and maririage b/4 we the public, what instigated her to take this drastic decision all of a sudden? "NNA MEN IFE KA-NKU" . I don't think MONalisa got up from slumber and decided to take a walk just like that. Something wey big pass CRICKET don enter him hole, this we must find out b/4 we can be in a better position to place sound judgement.
Some of us here said na GLO money dey cause this Kata kata, but dem forget say the rumousr don dey fly around 4 over a year now, even b4 GLO money was born. What of if MONALISA has PLAN B? Also let us not forget that man proposes and God disposes.My people e nor easy 4 a naija married woman to waka out of her marriage this way. So let chill till the main gist filters out.
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 8/31/2009 1:31:03 AMYORI YORIS! Why u forward this comments here again, abi the bobo never marry? Umunwa dey plenti, so what's his problem anyway? LIke i told u b4, this na kool business. Yoris, one thing u never know abt me is that i am a full fledged businessman. Those items u listed here are correct, but i don't see them the way u do. I look at them from the business point of view.. The companies that supplies goods to me either from Taiwan or China don't need to travel down to Nigeria to check out the selling prices first b4 they offer me quotation. So i don't care if it's 5 kegs of palm wine or 10 pieces of kola. Send me the statitics of the gurl of his dream, then i will check my inventory or outsource if not in stock. If the price is ok 4 him, then we forge ahead
Also how abt that forumite who asked u to help her find a man 4 her akata friend to buy? U can also contact her, boys and gurls dey. Yoris, this is the kind of business that will help u improve ur farming job, at least it can help u buy a few modern machinery. HAAAAAAAAAHAAAAAAHAAAAA
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WASATA | 8/31/2009 5:29:34 AMYeah, my husband does o! He doesn't like to see me playing so much of those deep romantic movies. But the truth about it is that I create the intimacy without being close. I try to play out the romantic role in such a way that I strike a balance. I try to appear convincing and my training has helped a lot. I mean you could actually play such roles without necessarily getting too close. And you see one has to be careful because you have a life outside the set. I am married to a Nigerian. A Yoruba man for that matter. So I cannot afford to mess myself up all in the name of acting. So it wouldn't look like see the acting I encouraged my wife to do is now becoming a curse. So I understand that. But my husband has been wonderful. He is been fantastic and very supportive. For me, he is the best husband in the world.
MONA, I HAD TO PASTE THIS AS SOME OF YA WORDS U SAID ABT YA HUSBAND WHEN U PPE JUST STARTED. THINK ABT IT.
MONA, FROM YA ACTION OF PACKING OUT WITHOUT YA HUBBY CONSENT SHOW U ARE AT FAULT.
LISA, LEARN TO TOLERATE YA HUBBY B/C U AR A WOMAN AND ALSO A MOTHER, YA HUSBAND IS YA FATHER, YA BROTHER, YA FIRST SON AND YA DARLING. AS A FATHER, HE MUST ALWAYS BE ATOP, AS A BROTHER HE WILL BE JEALOUS OF U NOT TO GO OFFTRACK, AS A SON, HE WILL ATIME BE STUBBORN OR TROUBLESOME TO U AND AS A DARLING, HE LOVE U AND SO PROUD OF U. TAKE THIS AND BUILD BACK YA HOME, U AR A BORN AGAIN AND IT IS B/C U BELIEVE THAT IS WHY GOD MAKES U EXCEL THEN NOW U WANT TO ABUSE HIM PUBLICLY FOR HIS GRACIOUS MERCIES TWARDS U.
BABY PRAY N PRAY FOR ANY ADNORMAL SITUATION, FOR PRAYERS BREAKS MOUNTAIN. DONT LET SATAN TO BE PROUD FOR NOTHING, DONT LISTEN TO NEGATIVE VIEWS.
TAKE A KOOL HEAD WHEREEVER U ARE AND BE THINKING OF THE BEST WAY TO SOLVE YA PROBLEM BUT NOT DIVORCE
TRY TO BE ANSWERING DEJO CALLS, IT MATURE TO DO SO. LET NO ONE f**l U UP.
TAKE MY LAST ADVICE: GO BACK HOME THERE IS NO MARITAL HOME WITHOUT UPS AND NOWS.
THERE IS NOTHING BETTER OUTSIDE.
GO TAKE BACK YA GARMENT OF RESPECT.
I WISH U MY BEST
PEACE
BYE
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N/A | 8/31/2009 11:49:45 AMYori Yori is looking for an akata wife and was saying it was the friend which is why I posted those interactions that took place btw him, u and Ugo.
Pls read the questions by yori yori to meme then you will know what I'm talking about.
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jane | 8/31/2009 12:22:17 PMN/A what are u trying to do, what are u gaining from this, who cares about what Yori Yori wants, if he want an akata wife thats is business. What is your own, mind your business and stop pork nosing. Look at the nonscence look list of old/previous event you posted here. I dislike attitude like this. I supect someone here her name start with Ch...e, because thats her way. AMEBO
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wopso | 8/31/2009 12:41:44 PMwhy did everybody just abandon our Fellas on the story of Kate Henshaw
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Tonna | 8/31/2009 12:48:35 PMMona ma luv judgng 4rm wat i read u dont have any strong reason 2 file 4 divorce...nw if u love ur baby stay in dat marriage nd save ur child d truma of single parenting.my dear look at urself, u luv ur hubby no doubt about dat...pls stay nd dnt leave him cos any1 comng 4 u nw is 4 d moni.
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Angel Tessy | 8/31/2009 1:20:09 PMYou can be educated but not intelligent,in your last interview,monalisa sounded,there is nothing wrong,if she spends more than d husdand .An african woman can predend and tolerant in courtship just to hook a man,so that d world can hear she married,now she want her husband to take d responsibility of family as an africa man,but he refuses, now argurment started,well d forumite,have giving u d advice,u needed in d all world,go back to your husband period.
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Yori Yori | 8/31/2009 2:11:17 PMJane onye nkem!"As a Fish can never do without water",likewise this forum can never do without intelligent and brave women like you.Jane,your virtuality is not in doubt as you have proven to the world that the "taste of the pudding is in the eating".*Thumb up for ya Girl*!!
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Ifeyinwa | 8/31/2009 2:42:52 PMMonalisa pls go back to your hubby and try to sort out whatever difference you have with him. pls try not to dance to the rhythm of the music playing outside as there's no better man than your husband out there.
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EJIKEMEUWA | 8/31/2009 2:48:17 PMWhat can i see. Palm oil and white cloths are not friend.
And they can never be
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Yori Yori | 8/31/2009 3:02:33 PMG.MASTER nwanne ikajara akaja!I've not forgotten our last akuko.Akwa gi si na iga eburum ibua?lmao.But nwanne you dey greedy,so you have your suppliers from Taiwan and China yet you still want this village bussiness?..Chei,People wey get Head no see Cap,People wey see Cap no get Head.Uwa nkea sef!!
Anyways since the deal would bring about some improvements in my farmland as you promised then count me in,even as am getting tired of the constant bizarre requests from some of my friends in Akata as regards to women.
Imagine,penultimate Sunday my friend(OKITI) rang me and asked if i could find him a nice girl for marital purposes.In his words,"I(Okiti) need a wife material girl,a beautiful one,tall and hardworking,must be a virgin with big 'Obiagu'(i hope u know wat i meant)".
Honestly the guy got me speechless especially with his quest for a Virgin as a wife,in this time cum age?But Notwithstanding the criteria,how can one tell if a Girl's chastity is still intact?>>>
G.MASTER though you may have gone to sleep already by virtue of global time difference however,I await your response subsequently!*Udo diri gi*
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Pweety | 8/31/2009 3:06:55 PMThis is a sad story and my hear bleeds to read this. WHat could have happened Mona??? i had more respect for you after reading your interviews a while back, eulogising your hubby and telling the whole world how much you love and adore him and what a blessing he is to you. Now, what happened??? Marriages have its ups and downs, i have been married for about 4 years, i have had reasons to turn my back on my marriage not becos my husband was cheating but becos i felt i was putting more financially but things do not remain this way forever my love, your story will definately change for the better. Please have a rethink, whatever it is, i am on my knees, reconcile with your husband. from the little i have read, it's obvious there is love between you too. Please go back, be a little more patient, pray more for him, try to make it work and it will. i love you and i truly want the best for you. i hope you get to read this.
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Meme | 8/31/2009 3:13:22 PMYori, unfortunately, these days everybody wants to be comfortable. Even the best of women. Nobody wants to be associated with hardship. It might be very hard for you to get the wife you want as a farmer - though I know you are joking.
But let us face facts - a farmer in the village, can only get a groundnut seller. Or one of those who hawk oranges and other fruits. Or maybe mam put seller. No educated girl will go for you.
N/A, thank for bringing the old discussion he had with Ugo. Yori, I had read Beyond Imagination by Ugonna. It actually centers around the nigerian woman and choice of a spouse. It is a wonderful fiction. I think the book will help you in your search for a wife. Find time to read it, since you have a copy.
When you have read it, let me know if it changes your impression about women, money and marriage. She dwelt alot on that.
Reply please.
N/A, Mahabone what advice do you have for Yori?
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Nwachi | 8/31/2009 3:58:29 PMU people should just stop beggin Monalisa, to go back to her husband.Does she look like a woman that would've stayed with one man for life in the name of marriage.I doubt it right from day one.The toasters and jesters outside matrimonial home would hardly allow her enjoy the marriage.But like you have been positively advised go back to your marriage o.If not I will also join those who will patronise you later later because sooner than later you will become public offer cuz of your husbandlessness.
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Eby | 8/31/2009 4:20:53 PMMonalisa since u got married, i've been reading the interviews u grant to media houses and i found out that u always reference ur husband in all ur interviews, but reading about the break up of ur marriage is dissapointing considering the fact that u already have a child for him. If i may ask, is divorce now a trend in nollywood? Mona i dont want to believe that it is the money that Glo dished out to u and some of ur colleagues that broke ur marriage, pls think twice and remember that a stiche in time saves nine.
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CHOVWE | 8/31/2009 4:30:27 PMJane I really like to enjoy my peace on this site.Why are you trying to make trouble at a time when this site is recovering from a period of boredom and insultive invasion?What is wrong in N/A pasting previous post from pple?I am not the first to start that system.A good avice to you sister, learn to respect pple, their rights and humour it pays within and without this site!God bless.
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Linda | 8/31/2009 4:42:56 PM'Mona if there's a way u guys can resolve this please do so not for anything but for the sake of the little girl she needs daddy in every way i have four girls and they can't go a day without seeing their father please something to resolve this if u can. Try counseling and everything will be alright.
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ngozi | 8/31/2009 5:23:21 PMmona dear, don't knowwhat happened but i know u can fix it. u might say dat u were happier when u were single but trust me its not a past u wd want to go back to. ur man may seem distant and u may have wondered where d sweet guy u met and married went to, but trust me, he's right there wit u. he just needs u to see d real him, understand him, be able to tap into his confidence, be able to look past certain things, and u guys will be best of frinds and no one wld be able to come btw u two. pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease go back my dear understand him beta, work it out, listen to each other and u won't regret it.
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cat eyes | 8/31/2009 5:26:54 PMMonalisa is a grown woman and I'm sure she knows if she wants to stay with her husband or not.Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors of any marriage. I would rather see a couple divorce than see a couple that fights everyday in the home-thats not healthy for a child either.Women have to stop believing they are only worthy if they have a man. I know many african women who divorced their husbands and maintained mature contact with him and the children so if Monalisa and her husband decide to divorce, it is not the end of the world.
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TRINAH | 8/31/2009 5:32:23 PMHi guys, I ve been away and don't know what has been happening
As for a lot of you guys, It really sadden me if I hear about divorces. I wonder whats that big that a couple can't even solve and become a happy family again.
Divorce is really not a good thing, think about olden days, you wouldn't hear such things, but nowadays divorce is like a competition where people have to win it......... God have mercy on this nation AMEN.
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PRINCESS | 8/31/2009 6:23:37 PMthis your site me i don't trust them. please everybody keep your comment to yourself because i cannot believe this story. they just went people to draw attention because so many viewers has stop reading from this site.old story all the time and now to bring new this is what you have brought to put problem in somebody married .
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kobo | 8/31/2009 6:33:58 PMPrincess pls leave NFC alone.They're doing a good job for now,beside this Monalisa's news have lying around for long.Go to sun newspapper,vanguard,bella,tribute newspapper the news is there.so i beg u leave NFC alone.
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cat eyes | 8/31/2009 7:23:50 PMJust because you are a farmer doesn't make you any less than a man-you got a dick like every other man.This is why alot of women will NEVER get married.Their expectations are of a fantasy nature,alot of them place finance and material possessions over a man's heart and they ALWAYS get their feelings hurt in the end.You hang in there Yori, there is a sensible woman out there that will accept and appreciate your heart and not care about your finances.I'm telling you a good friend of mine in Lagos just got engaged to her houseboy and she's coming to New York to see me in December and she is just so happy because she said he treats her like gold.After being with men with money that treated her bad, she finally took my advice and stopped thinking about what other people would say and stopped looking for outside traits and began to really listen with her heart-now she is smiling wevery time I talk to her-I am so happy for her.Good luck to you
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chioma | 8/31/2009 7:28:35 PMCat eye spread the gospel to all those 14th century people that think that marriage must continue even at the point of the couples killing themselves. One thing I learn in life is; you are in the best position to advice your self cos people give you advice they can not give them self so that they can laugh at you later.
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Amen | 8/31/2009 7:32:59 PMTrinah, nobody missed you and nobody cares where you have been. We dont need to know all that. Just paste your comment quietly.
Have you seen anywhere where anybody asked for Trinah? No! You know why? Bcos you are fake!
Princess, you have proven that you do not read news. Monalisa'a issue has been lingering for a long time. NFC, does not publish fake news. They normally verify before publication. So, we dont need your advice.
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i | 8/31/2009 7:39:36 PMAmen Trinah is a old member here, I think its being a very long time she commented, I think thats the reason u do not know her. Pls dont be too fast to conclude.
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cat eyes | 8/31/2009 7:42:20 PMfirst how are you?-I haven't heard from you in a while.Second, even though I'm married,I would never tell anyone to be with someone they are not happy with.Being in an unhappy marriage will make the children even worse off.None of us know the reason she feels this way-who knows,it could have even been abusive to her.Women have to really stop thinking that they are only complete with a man.As long as the couple stays mature for the sake of the children,they will be ok.
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Baby Girl | 8/31/2009 7:47:26 PMChioma thanks so much. Chovwe, I got ur message. Thanks for that.
SSS, thanks for being there.
Where is Jane from Sweden. I havent read her comments.
Not forgetting Mungo, our friend. Mungo, why the silence? Are you on strike?
Ugo, I greet you.
There seem to be new forumites - Amen, meme etc etc.
Anyway, just like cat eyes says, a lot happens behind closed doors. Marriage is a very difficult thing. It only takes the grace of God. Only very few couples can say that their marriage is bliss. Many are just managing. I hope she gets over it soon.
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Amen | 8/31/2009 8:03:53 PMI will rather remain a dicorcee or a spinster, than descend so low as to marry my houseboy.
God forbid it.
Your friend has entered into more trouble by going for a houseboy. The house boy is nothing but a gold digger. He wants to use her as a means to an end.
By the time he is through with your friend, she will be unable to spell her name. Or even recognise her own face in the mirrior.
It is only a lazy greedy man, that will marry her madam.
Tell your friend to watch out, before it's too late. Before you know it, the boy will use sugar coated tongue to defraud her of all her investments.
God forbid it. Houseboy! No, no no! It is a big mistake.
How can madam be openning her legs for a house boy to dig? Or my God! Abormination! This just the begining of her problems.
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Meg | 8/31/2009 8:08:46 PMi, are you trinah, or her ambassador? Na she send you? or na you send yourself?
Amen is right. We do not give a damn if she has been away or within. The only time I ever noticed trinah, it was trouble she caused.
She diappeared the way she came only to resurface now to say, ' I have been away for long.'
Who cares!
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cat eyes | 8/31/2009 8:13:57 PMthis is the thing-they are both grown and can do what they want.No matter if her decision is right or wrong,she is my friend and I will support her.And don't act like madames sleeping with their houseboy is not happening because believe me,i know many married women whose husbands are out doing whatever and the houseboy is tightening her up. The last time I visited Nigeria, I knew a houseboy that was sleeping with every woman in the house-hey,he has a dick like every other man.I don't care I'm just happy to hear and see her smiling.You only live once and if this man is the wrong one for her, at least he helped her get over her horrible marriage,thats the point.
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Yori Yori | 8/31/2009 8:19:57 PMA million kisses and thanks to you Cat Eyes.I got blown away by your invaluable and wholesome response.Your contributions to this forum remain priceless and many Forumites can attest to this.Hitherto I used to think that Love is the ultimate binder in a relationship until my Friend(Meme) dropped the bombshell(the pseudo reality of the financial side of things which seemed overwhelming) which got me real scared as Village Farmer.
However I still envisage hope,happiness and a better future for the average man in the village and otherwise,going by what Cat Eyes said.wow!
Cat Eyes,you are indeed an epitome of wisdom.If you were from my villa i would've begged my Igwe to give you the title of AGBALA NWANYI cos you are the reason for the smiles on my face now!!
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Fella's | 8/31/2009 10:06:49 PMI don't know why some people keeps f**ling themselves in moronically ways. Just imagine, after my guy, AMEN, has adviced me to stop Dissing, dat nicotine called WOPSO is still stepping on my nerves. Though, i'm not niggling oh! But i'm telling everyone here 2 advice dat hoodlum bcos if i start, eh.............! Dis site go shake oh. I also want 2 tell everyone 2 stop advicing my angelic monalisa bcos she's riped and matured enough 2 take any supernatural decision 4 herself. Stop wasting ur comments. Pls like i comment initially, u people should advice WOPSO. bcos i go start oh!
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cat eyes | 8/31/2009 10:33:18 PMwell,keep smiling because there is a woman in your village for you.My mother always told us there is a lid for every pot.You will get your lid.
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Coconut | 8/31/2009 10:57:45 PME bi like say you be coconut water head. Cant you play mature for once? Must you reply to every comment? Are u a street boy?
Abi hemp don spoil ur head. This site is for mature people. If I were u, I would have pretended that I didnt see wopso's comment. Warri tout!!!
Wopso, you sef bi anoda trouble maker. Make you take your time -o! Na you dey find fella's trouble now. Why u not fit mind your business? Busy body!!! Coconut water head!!! Mumu!!!
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MUNGO | 9/1/2009 12:26:18 AMMarriage is a legal union of a man and woman for life as husband and wife. “And that a man will leave his father and mother, and be forever united to his wife. The two shall become one, no longer two, but one in matrimony! And no man may divorce what God has joined together. This was the message I got during me time. Today, most people's understanding about marriage has become a mess. Hardly surprising looking at the things people think is all about, which portray marriage as a kind of fun pastime. Most marriages today are confined to emotions and feelings rather than commitment and honesty. Marriage is very patient and kind, no jealous, envious, boastful, or proud, never haughty, selfish or rude. It does not demand its own way. It does not hold grudges and will hardly notice when him/her does it wrong.
Monalisa, if you love, adore and respect him. Why do you ask for divorce? Segun, go back do little things to show you that you love her to death. I know you can figure things to make it right. Kneel down and beg your wife, this is the traditional way of getting things from them (women). Remember marriage needs submission of both partners.
My Baby girl, long time no hear! Hope you're okay.
Meg, I love reading from you every minute, Why? Every time I read your post, I find something else about you that I like. I know your marriage will continue to grow from His grace to His grace.
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 9/1/2009 1:13:44 AMWopso, abeg make u nor re-visit that area. Sister CHOVWE don advice me to quit it, not just to me but 2 all. Silence is the best answer to a f**l, and we just did that.
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Fella's | 9/1/2009 1:40:12 AMAnother one don come again oh. Dis one wey just jump into boiling acid of 150 degree centrigrade na typical elementary illiterate bcos i dey sense am 4 here. If i dey smoke hemp, i stil beta pass TERRY-G wey dey kpo thunder. But u and ur papa and ur brothers na wrap una dey wrap dry s**t 4 paper dey smoke bcos una nor get money 2 buy marijuana and razlar 2 smoke. U comment say i b street boy abi? Let me tell u, governor ibori is from d street, 50cent is from street, jarule is from street, lil wayne is from street, so many uncountable heroes came from d street. But u wey b AJE BUTTER una dey behave like imbicile. As i dey here sef, my throat dey irritate me bcos of u sour menstral blood. U neva see anything oh. U b waste product 4 my nose and i will not be a relentable i***t like mahabone 2 blow u off my nose so dat u can sink into my street gutter u said i'm.
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 9/1/2009 2:20:11 AMYori, nna men make u nor vex. I just came back from sunday jumps, so my eyes nor clear well well, thought say na u re-posted that comment.
I nor dey greedy, u know business is like giving alms to the poor-no amount is too big or too small. If i focus only on the bigger pictures what happens in times of unforseen circumstances. It's a kind of collateral against the unkown. Ok, abi u nor see wetin dey happen in our banking sector now. By the time all those self acclaimed billionaires pays back, that's if they are lucky to escape jail terms, don't u think many of them nor go fit buy barrow push 4 oshodi. So in cases like this, i fit survive with that kind of deals.
Don't fret about the virgin thing, Okiti simply offered u the contract with some bonus. But this guys wey dey bang u on phone 4 this, abi dem be orphans, dem no get families or relatives? I think this could be better arranged by their families or are u a LOVER BOY? That's u have ways with UMUNWA.
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 9/1/2009 3:49:53 AMThough CAT EYES has showered abundant light on this farming thing, let me chip in something. MEME, i don't buy ur take on village farming. Don't forget that farming is one of the most lucrative ventures today, and it's mostly done in remote areas where the land are plentiful and more fertile. But if u r telling me that farming is not yet fully develop in Africa , then i may agree with u.
On the issue of a village farmer marrying an educated woman, it's hard not impossible. It all depends on luck. I've seen a bus driver who married a master degree holder in my yown.
It's hard 4 me to advice YORI 'cos i sincerely believe that there's something he's not telling us about his real person. He claimed to be a village farmer, but at what level? Village farming get levels. Abi u nor say Obasanjo be village farmer too? Even if YORI is really a village farmer, i don't see him having problem in getting any woman of his choice. Punder dis MEME, have u considered why all his friends abroad abandoned their parents, uncles and pitched tents with him . In igbo land this are normally handled by parents and uncles. Don't be decived, YORI is simply pranking us here, it's either he's an infulential village farmer or his friends knew and has tested his pedigree in UMUNWA department. This is the most important aspect of a man's life, you can't go to main market Onitsha, pick up a trader and make him the Governor of CBN.
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Free. | 9/1/2009 8:46:43 AMMonalisa dear,
My dear,life is full of surprises,am one of the people who didnot grow up with my father,but i do not want your kid to miss the LOVE of her father yet he is there alive and kicking.Please for your daughter's sake ,dont do that.With God's help ,you can over come all this,always remember that he is a human being also and there are people worse than him.May God see you thru.We love to see you together.
Greetings from Uganda.
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CNN | 9/1/2009 8:51:35 AMJane from Swiss was right. Trinah is N/A. And the two of them is one Amebo. The Site Lady. Her name start with C and end with E. She is a busy body.
NG, which one you dey now? Why you no want to paste comment? What advice do you have for Monalisa? I am missing your coment-o!!!!!
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heaven is my target | 9/1/2009 8:55:57 AMmonalisa,can u show me any marriage in the world that is without crisis? if u believe in life after death and man's life is short,i would advice u to return back to ur hubby.having mis-understanding in marriage is part of humanity just like the present economy meltdown which happend in Abraham's time.There is nothing new under the sun.if u love ur daugther u will be submisive to ur husband because u will give account of ur self someday soon.Beware of friends.they smile and laugh wit u but u can never see the contents of their heart.a wise woman builds her home.ur life span is three score and ten.each day u wake up to a brand new day means ur life is reducing.
wake up girl,for we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principality & power and rulers of darkness in high places. don't give them the chance to claim victory.remember ur vow u took before the alter of God.for better for worse,including INCOMPATABILITY.
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Baby girl | 9/1/2009 9:02:16 AMFree, from uganda, you are very right. It is good for kids to grow up with a father and a mother. But sometimes you cant help it. Instead of a child growing uo with a voilent father, that child is better off without a father. It is painful for a child to watch the father beat the mother often. It is not good for any child. It can make the child aggressive or timid and withdrawn.
Afterall, some men die when their kids are tender and the woman raises the kids alone. Some grow in the orphanage. I know it is not the best, but 70% of the time, such kids are success stories.
The Lord God gives them strenght to carry on. I cant advice a woman to stay in a voilent marriage bcos of children. The woman too deserves to be happy.
I wish mona the best in which ever decision she decides to take.
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 9/1/2009 10:01:30 AMBabygirl, that was a nice one. I dey wonder if Monalisa's case is the first divorce case we dey experience 4 naija. Everybody "MONALISA GO BACK, MONALISA GO BACK", but none cares to find out what actually pushed her out in the first place. Only a quack doctor can offer medication to a patient without first examing the patient and diagonizing the nature of the sickness. Even if her matrimonial home was like a hell fire, them still want her to go back just to prove the good mama or wifey stuff. I am a free spirited person, i crave freedom, so i won't advice anyone to stay in a place or live with someone he/she is not comfortable with.
Why is MR DEJO RICHARDS so nervous(hope am correct here) and insuch a haste to have her back, banging her CP as if the sky is dropping this moment. Is it 4 the love he has 4 Monalisa, for the family or mere guiltiness? Pls Monalisa, calm down ur nerves, reflect on certain issues and follow ur heart. "CHIKINA"
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CHOVWE | 9/1/2009 10:14:37 AMCNN, I read your comment and it has dawned on me that you seem not to have learnt your lessons for trying to spoil / disturb this fun loving site and the wonderful pple in them.The last time you said TRINAH is CHOVWE today she is N/A - are you not tired of looking out for trouble?Pls have some shame , respect everyone here, NFC and learn to have fun.Do not be envious of me and my life!
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CHOVWE | 9/1/2009 10:47:05 AMCateyes, your story is not new to me but it is one of those things that happens in life.The bible says , there is nothing new under the sun; my cousin got married to the driver of her parents.Coincidentally, there is also a film on how a woman married their driver in Nollywood, the lead characters are Chiege Alisigwe and Charles Awurum. I see nothing wrong if a houseboy, driver, gateman marries his employer or boss.Marriage is all about love/happiness and not material things.
To Yori Yori you sure are not a farmer but a man doing well somewhere outside Nigeria.And even if you are , you are a modern one , the type Mahabone described.Farmer wey you dey talk about cannot get access to regular internet as earlier implied , you are an educated farmer and a funny man !
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heaven is my target | 9/1/2009 11:08:49 AM"It has been great being married. I have been married for some years now and it has been beautiful. Yes we have our little quarrels here and there but the ability to make amends and move on from that point is what really matters. Being a mother too has made it easier because you are not as strict as you used to be. You are more open minded and you are more loving because the kids are there and they need attention"
THESE ARE THE WORDS OF CHIOMA CHUKWURA APORTA,AN ACTRESS LIKE URSELF.LOOK BEFORE U LEAP. ENGAGE UR BRAIN BEFORE U ENGAGE UR MOUTH,MEANING U SHOULD THINK BEFORE U TALK.
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CHOVWE OGBE | 9/1/2009 11:58:24 AMDear All and NFC, I just hope this comment willl not be deleted but I think it is important for me to make a few things clear.I have been visiting this site for almost 4 yrs now and have been enjoying myself.All forumites respect each other but some few weeks ago, a few of us tried to disrupt the fun and respect we all share; notable of them are CNN and NG.All attacks/insult were mostly directed to me.You see, I love fun and I love being happy and at the same time I recognise that other pple must be respected.I wish to let everyone and NFC know that CNN and JANE are attempting to get on my nerves.There is a natural limit to everything.I appeal to you all to ask these two pple to let me be .No one is forcing me here but if the trouble of insult is coming once again , I will stop posting comments here.THANX and GOD BLESS.
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a4apple | 9/1/2009 12:48:00 PMCnn and jane abeg make una leave my chovwe alone she no get problem she be water she no get enemy,i take God de beg una make una no get on her nerves again,make una try de una own,if una no like her comment make una pass d comment by
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wopso | 9/1/2009 1:17:39 PMcnn and jane a beg for God name make wuna settle this problem with Chovwe ones n for all.Chovwe na nice person for crying out loud if not e no for want peace.when chovwe left this site we missed her lets give her breathing space abeg oooooooooooooh
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Ugo | 9/1/2009 1:32:23 PMBaby girl and Grand master, you both have made avery good points. I never knew men can also reason like this. I personally dont buy the idea of a woman living with a man who has no respect for her or a man who is violent.
Monalisa said she still has respect for her husband. It is kind of confusing. Except she just said that to the press to cover up. Bcos I know that respect can sustain marriage even when there is no love.
All in all, I think it does not really make sense for a woman to live with a man when things are not working. Many women have been beaten to death by their husband, bcos they were afraid of quiting. They stayed tight till they met their death.
It is personally not good for children to witness parents fighting. It makes them grow up with a lot of hatred and hostility in their heart. It could also affect their own marriages as well.
We have not heard the full story. But I want to think that the man is so interseted in controlling her finances. No woman will take that. If a woman has to contribute, they both have to talk it over amicably.
She must not be forced to do so.
My neighbour and her husband are always on each others throat bcos the woman makes more money. The man insists that she must give him all her salary every month while he does the spending. Just last week, she quit the marriage. She had had enough. This happens in many home.
I personally cannot stay under a life threatening situation, just becos I want to remain married. It makes no sense. We have just one life and life can go on with or without a husband or a wife.
Monalisa has been blessed with a child, let her take care of her. A child is also a source of joy for every parent.
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PRINCESS | 9/1/2009 1:47:59 PMkobo
may be this site has paid you to support them. if not i think
you need something to put on before you read
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TRINAH | 9/1/2009 2:23:18 PMCNN & AMEN, why do you guys always want me to be somebody else???????????? You are always saying I am this or that.
Pls guys help urselves and leave me alone to paste my comments in peace. I don't condone your attacks on me people. I am Trinan and Not Chovwe or somebody else.
Let the name Chovwe be pls, and if you want to adress anything to me do so peacefully pls folks
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Kobo | 9/1/2009 2:34:55 PMSheerrrapp Princess!Most of us(Ghanaian) here are fond of making empty noises about an apparent fact or true story.I beg u again leave NFC alone,they hve done enough by bringing these news to u free of charge.Besides the news are not restricted to this site alone.if u are as clever as u claimed then u should ve read the same news else where.I say Sheerrrappp!!
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JOYCE | 9/1/2009 4:45:05 PMHi dear,
Some time ago i read your story that goes like this i love my husband nd that nothing can seperate us,
pls woman 4 the sake of the baby pls go back 2 ur husband,is ur husband who will offend u nd not me
u shd know that each one of you have your differences so it's up 2u 2 work that differences together
look there is no better man anywhere tune the one u have 2 be better 4u.
pls remember 4better 4worse till death do us part (God the father was there,the Son nd the holy spirit)
pls go back.
thank u for going to your husbands house
i wish u the best of marriage
good luck
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Jonathan | 9/1/2009 4:59:51 PMWho are those bothering my Chovwe Ogbe......Them don kolo-mental abi na weytin....This site was really fun to be on and very educative as well...I see the unity among various Africans through the divergent views and comments we all post here but I am highly disappointed at the recent abusive comments of some people here...
They don't just intimidate others but just want to constitute a bunch of nuisance on this forum....Please NFC, get them off the system so that those of us who have been faithful visitors of NFC for over 5 (yes, more than 5 years) can still enjoy the site...Chovwe, please don't leave this site, I have already told you, you are a perfect epitome of Africa's unifying instruments (or icons, if that is not too much for you)
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ayo | 9/1/2009 5:45:38 PMmonalisa, u are wonderfully and beautiful ly made by God. why do u want to end your maraige just bcos of minor problem. God said forgive as many times as u can in a day not to talk of week, month, or year.we all want God to forgive us our sins but we cannot forgive each other on every little sin. why? pls forgive him of all his shortcoming bcos he said he still love u and want u back into his life. pls think of your beautiful daughter. pls.
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PRINCESS | 9/1/2009 6:01:37 PMwhats your problem. empty man. please read and go. instead of making noise .anyway who told you is free, you don't even no what you use your money for.village boy. the internet you are using don't you no is telecommunication. uselessman
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PRINCESS | 9/1/2009 6:12:02 PMyou mean i should read from else where: from omg, or from e online.com,or may be from kobo.com, any way do you no what is WWW, i mean it. if you no tell me. oh may be you stay in sankore where there are so many people using just one internet cafe f**l. am so sorry for you.
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PRINCESS | 9/1/2009 6:20:35 PMIS YOUR NAME THE SAME AMEN WE SEE ALWAYS IN THE HOLY BIBLE. I HOPE NOT. PLEASE WATCH WHAT YOU SAY TO ME. AND AGAIN YOU SAID THIS NEWS IS OLD , DO YOU READ THIS FROM X17 ONLINE.
ANYWAY ARE YOU ,TELL ME MALE OR FEMALE.I HAVE FORGIVEN YOU BECAUSE: GO AND SIN NO MORE
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me | 9/1/2009 7:08:12 PMpls great ladies of this site lets 4get d past n keep enjoying ourself.God bless u all
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cnn | 9/1/2009 7:36:37 PMTrinah or what ever, I know who you are. You cant decieve me. You sound like the real you when you write, no matter the name you use.
Gal (according to you) stop this trick. We know you.
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Amen | 9/1/2009 7:45:01 PMPrincess, what is my sin and who will forgive who?
Mahabone, you don marry? No vex, i have reasons for asking.
Chovwe, list the names of those were dey worry you make i circumcise them.
Trinah, who are you? If you are faceless, please disappear. Your name is causing problem. N/A, e bi like say you too go disappear. You are controvercial.
My dear Ugonna, baby girl, chioma, cat eyes, u all made great comments. The truth is bitter. Mahabone was in full support as a man, that is why I am asking him if he is married.
Mahabone, I need an answer.
Mungo, I throw way salute.
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Osei Gyampo | 9/1/2009 8:35:27 PMMonalisa,please go back to your matrimonial home bacause i can see that whatever the incompatibility is your husband is prepare to make it compatible.
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TRINAH | 9/1/2009 9:40:56 PMWho dash mahabone wife?
Mahabone na professional bachelor. Where em want see wife marry wey i still dey Japan dey chop spaggetti?
Mahabone e never reach wey u go go home go marry?
Mariage na sign of responsibility-o. Abi u no want answer papa bom-boy?
Abi you dey fear responsibility?
Or abi you no sabi shoot?
If dey shame for approach woman, tell me make i help you.
No let that spaggetti for Japan deceive you.?
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UKBY | 9/1/2009 9:54:32 PMHmmm! so na this kind gist i miss. na wah for me sef. Monalisa, I know marriage is not a bed of roses, but i will plead with you to give your husband a second chance and go back to him.
My Amiable Sister Chovwe, pls i will beg you not to leave this site cos you're one of my most cherished on this site. don't mind all those oversabi people wey don invade this site; when they're tired they will let you be.
For Grand Master, thanks for your wonderful comments as they're always appreciated.
Beautiful Cateyes, you speak with wisdom cos i always draw inspiration from your postings wheenever i read them. pls keep it up.
Yori Yori my good brother, I wish you success in your quest though i know say you be one kool bobo wey dey try very hard to confuse people here with your farm story.
Mungo, i will say welcome back to this wonderful site. you were greatly missed.
And to all the wonderful people that left the site for one reason or the other, I say a big welcome back to you all!
Please keep the love flowing!
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kobo | 9/1/2009 10:21:06 PMPrincess u are a compound i***t.An imolistic afulawo.U should be ashamed of ur ignorance on how technology works b4 coming here to expose ur state of nonentity.ew...u are the only person that have a home hob abi?Only God knows who's ISP ur tapping from.Boko haram like u.If u like go to (f*****hprincess.com),I DONT GIVE A HOOT!
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bliss | 9/1/2009 10:56:52 PMmonalisa please go back to your husband, although it may be hard to settle differences but with God's strength you can make it.
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Kingsley | 9/2/2009 12:32:08 AMListen, once the marriage does'nt involve any threath to life. i would advice you to forgive and find back your husband. you are a woman you know how to convince the father of your babby. It's no big deal at times we sacrifice alot for peace to rain. Don't mind what the world will say later and what your friends would say about you. what matters is your love and broken heart. your happiness comes in fullness when your are with your husband. from what u've said you still love him go back and win his soul. you can make it. Am giving this advice as a friend, a Farn,a brother and alover of goodwill with no prejudice. if any diificulty comes of which I know it won'nt happen pls send mail to munakingso@yahoo.com.God will see you through Amen.
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baby | 9/2/2009 3:38:21 AMi beg is too early go back to ur hubby, ah na watin sef
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baby | 9/2/2009 3:38:25 AMi beg is too early go back to ur hubby, ah na watin sef
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 9/2/2009 5:57:54 AMAmen we meet again, wetin dey 4 ur domot? Amen, i nor where u dey come from, but i really have to disappoint u. I am not a movie star or a public figure, so i don't table my private life on the pages of newspapers or internet. I stand to gain nothing, we're talking abt Monalisa's 'cos she's famous. That's the prize to pay. I don't even use my real name online, only a few forumites who connects with me on private levels knows my name and what you asked. So i expect u to respect my private life.
On my comments on Monalisa, what u read here is what u get, that's my true personality.I solemnly based my comments on the true notion of justice and fairness. I see Monalisa as a human being created by God in his own image like all of us here, not just mere mother or wife as perceived by majority here. She has the right to live a happy and fulfilling life like every otherr human being in a way she deems fit as an adult. Remember that: " LIFE IS WHAT U MAKE OF IT. IT'S THE CHOICES THAT WE MAKE THAT SPICES IT".
When u see Monalisa in this light, trust me, you will view this saga from a different angle. Amen, assuming that Monalisa is ur true blood sister, WHAT WILL BE UR FIRST REACTION?
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 9/2/2009 7:06:58 AMTrinah, i nor send u, wetin be ur stress sef? Some comments here described u as fake and faceless, i never really believed those till i read ur comment. I don't even notice ur presence or impact on this site, so what exactly is the bases for this hate and jealous?
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 9/2/2009 8:46:33 AMChovwe, u strike me so funny, why u wan do Monalisa stuff, waka go where? Any person wey nor like ur style of commenting should ignore it and read the next.
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Ekpere | 9/2/2009 10:09:31 AMPlease is good you go through all this comments and see the reason why you should go back to you marriage. There is no problem that will come out in a family that will warrant divorce rather than adultry even at that those that do love themselves forgives. So whatever this man have done to you, find a place in your heart and forgive him and go back to your marriage,if you faint in the days of trouble, your faith is small, marriage is for those that are matured in heart and not for babes, whosoever than run out from marriage because of trouble is not yet mature no matter the person age,so you better go back and that allow that spirit that follows nollywood people to affect you.
Think twice.
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TRINAH | 9/2/2009 1:47:12 PMJeez, these people are so obssessd with me, the Person who wrote the post at 9:40:56 dated 09/01/2009, its not me (the original Trinah)
I can't even write that type of english (Pigeon English, or whatever that is) my goodness.
Mahobone, I do not have anything against you, the Trinah that wrote that post is not me at all. Pls people leave me alone .
I don't even understand what that fake Trinan wrote neither what Mahabone wrote at 7:06:58 dated 2nd Sep, Pls Mahabone translate into proper English for me.
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Cnn | 9/2/2009 2:30:12 PMHow many times have I called you? 3 times.
Mahabone, trinah is someone that knows you. Bear this in mind.
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Mahabone-The Grand Master! | 9/3/2009 7:22:45 AM | Tokyo-Japan
CNN, thanx 4 ur concern, u might be right but i've 3 friends i am connecting with on personal levels and i don't expect them to sell themselves this cheap here.
One thing Trinah don't think about is that we don't know each other and may never cross part, how then would she verify the answer i might give her?
TRINAH | 9/2/2009 3:49:55 PMSo CNN, you are the one using my name all over the place to insult people? My good ness I can't belive this. So some pple can really stoop so low like this, are you intimidated by me or what?
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ACT NOW | 9/2/2009 8:54:19 PM | USA-USA
TRINAH CNN IS OUT TO CAUSE PROBLEM FOR YOU , CHOVWE AND NFC.
Onome | 9/2/2009 6:25:20 PMMonalisa,l want to appeal to your sense of reasoning,there is a popular parlance that says,a dog that is destined to get lost do not care about his master,s whistle.Please, sweetheart,give the situation a rethink.Give it second trial,whatever may be the bone of contention between you both,is uncalled for at this very point.Everyone has his or her shortcomings but your ability to manage situation shows how matured one is.No marriage is infallible.Once again,l oblige you to go back to your hubby and make amend.
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ACT NOW | 9/2/2009 8:50:24 PMTHE ID CNN IS A VIRUS THAT IS OUT TO WRECK YOUR SITE. NFC IT HAS HAPPENED BEFORE.ADMIN TAKE ACTION.
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TRINAH | 9/3/2009 1:06:19 PMThanks Act Now.
I 'v requested the administrator to investigate who is using my name bt nothing have happened. I'm really tired now....... its not fair at all if people are doing these type of things and the admin is not doing anything to solve the problem
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me | 9/4/2009 11:33:00 AMjust be focused n foget about anyone trying 2 bring u down
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TRINAH | 9/4/2009 11:45:54 AM | ZAM-ZAM
Thanks for your concern Me, but the thing is this person is all over the place talking ill to Mahobone, it is not fair maan.
HOLJ | 9/4/2009 9:27:20 PMI TIRE 4 NIG ACTRESS. Y UNA TOTO TOO DEY SCRATCH UNA.
Y UNA NO DEY FIT STAY UNDER A MAN. NA COURSE??
NEXT 1 NW GO BI INI EDO TURN. BUT LESS WAIT AND SEE.
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perpy | 9/6/2009 3:12:41 AMBuenas dia Monalisa,
I use to admire and respect u most of all wen u spoke so well of ur husband. now wat is happenning? wat has he done dat u cant 4give? do u think divorce is d answer? do u think there an angel out there?
i will advice u,stop borrowing western culture is already eating deep in them.
go and resolve ur prob with ur hubby.or if serious seperate first and pray to God for reparation then go back.
children brot under seperate homes suffer for it.
think about it oyibo niger.
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Tolu | 9/12/2009 2:16:38 PMU this woman you better go back to your husband the only thing l ate about actress is this they are not ready to endour,s****d people.
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JACINTA | 9/23/2009 4:45:22 PMMONALISA, there is no marriage without problems. The most important thing is ur ability to control the problems. That is the reson i always say that marriage is not a bed of roses but a game for mature minds. Now that the whole thing has been publisiced, i believe ur husband will not maltreat u again. Go bak 2 him 4 d sake of ur daughter and ur own dignity. Ask ur fellow actresses, they wiil also tell u that their own husbands are worse than ur own but u always fordge ahead cos it's always like that in the 1st years of marriage, but with time u and ur husband will learn how to manage urselves bettr. BE A HOME MAKER AND NOT A HOME BREAKER COS GOD WIIL NOT BE HAPPY WITH UR DESCISIONS, LOOK BAK PLS.
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EMMANUEL TUMBA | 10/10/2009 12:49:30 PMBaby,pls try n c dat u are back n d house.The Bible says weeping endured 4 a night but joy must definetly come n d morning.Be prayerful,tell GOD how u want ur house 2 b,speak positive thinges 4 him.I promise u dat u will at d end laugh n who laugh last laugh best.I will also join u n prayers.Whenever i hear dat a woman s leaving her home 4 anoda woman 2 come inn n enjoy wat she has not laboured 4,i feel demoralise y bcos am a victim of such(BROKEN HOME).Mummy blaiming Dad n Dad likewise.At d end of d whole story,anoda came into d house and dat was d begining of my problem as d only son in d family.My father top military officer could not say anything.I ate mango 4 breakfast no lunch and gwava 4 dinner.I sleep on mat n d BQ while my step mom n my dad stayed n d main house with 8 odlies and backmen working 4 her n her children.At d age of 12 dat was 1992,i source 4 N30.00 and bought a hoe 4 myself n started farming to get money 4 my schoolfees.Today my dad is late,he died of stroke,my mom s also late cos of d same problem,my step mom has three children d first born s n jail for attepted morder of his younger sister.D two girls are nowhere to be found now.I am now am now a captain in d nigerian army and by special grace of God i will b getting married by april 2010.So pls dont let ur children pss through such stages in life.
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EMMANUEL TUMBA | 10/10/2009 12:49:37 PMBaby,pls try n c dat u are back n d house.The Bible says weeping endured 4 a night but joy must definetly come n d morning.Be prayerful,tell GOD how u want ur house 2 b,speak positive thinges 4 him.I promise u dat u will at d end laugh n who laugh last laugh best.I will also join u n prayers.Whenever i hear dat a woman s leaving her home 4 anoda woman 2 come inn n enjoy wat she has not laboured 4,i feel demoralise y bcos am a victim of such(BROKEN HOME).Mummy blaiming Dad n Dad likewise.At d end of d whole story,anoda came into d house and dat was d begining of my problem as d only son in d family.My father top military officer could not say anything.I ate mango 4 breakfast no lunch and gwava 4 dinner.I sleep on mat n d BQ while my step mom n my dad stayed n d main house with 8 odlies and backmen working 4 her n her children.At d age of 12 dat was 1992,i source 4 N30.00 and bought a hoe 4 myself n started farming to get money 4 my schoolfees.Today my dad is late,he died of stroke,my mom s also late cos of d same problem,my step mom has three children d first born s n jail for attepted morder of his younger sister.D two girls are nowhere to be found now.I am now am now a captain in d nigerian army and by special grace of God i will b getting married by april 2010.So pls dont let ur children pss through such stages in life.
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GRACE | 10/10/2009 4:40:16 PMDO YOU TRUELY LOVE YOUR HUSBAND? IF YOU DO THEN I BELIEVE YOU BOTH CAN MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK. THINK ABOUT THIS. FORGIVE HIM. IF FOR NOTHING THIS PRETTY GIRL.
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GRACE | 10/10/2009 4:41:05 PMDO YOU TRUELY LOVE YOUR HUSBAND? IF YOU DO THEN I BELIEVE YOU BOTH CAN MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK. THINK ABOUT THIS. FORGIVE HIM. IF FOR NOTHING THIS PRETTY GIRL.
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Archy | 10/18/2009 8:08:20 PMI like this woman for her level of maturity in handling this issue.Whether she reconciles with the husband or not is up to her.If the words I read hear actually came from her heart,then I respect her for that.In life such things are bound to happen and they way you handle it is what makes you who you are.
God bless you.
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NONNY | 2/3/2010 1:12:26 PMPLEASE TRY AND MAKE PEACE WITH UR HUSBAND BCOS MEN RE LIKE THA;AAM MARRIED 4 2YRS NOW.WE HAVE SEEN THAT YOU SAW.I ,I LIKE U FOR WHOM YOU ARE.
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NONNY | 2/3/2010 1:13:52 PMPLEASE TRY AND MAKE PEACE WITH UR HUSBAND BCOS MEN RE LIKE THAT;AM MARRIED 4 2YRS NOW.WE HAVE SEEN THAT YOU SAW.I ,I LIKE U FOR WHOM YOU ARE.
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LUIZA | 4/2/2010 3:39:45 AMStar actress, Monalisa Chinda,
MUCH BEAULTIFUL AND BABY
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LUIZA | 4/2/2010 3:43:36 AMNICE YOUR SONGS NICE YOUR PAGE YOU YES SPECIAL TO WORLD
LUIZA BRAZIULIAN INDIAN
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LUIZA | 4/2/2010 3:44:14 AMNICE YOUR SONGS NICE YOUR PAGE YOU YES SPECIAL TO WORLD
LUIZA BRAZILIAN INDIAN
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go back | 7/30/2010 12:17:55 PMu guys like divorce/break up y?u beta go back to ur matrimonial home
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Mon | 9/29/2012 12:19:48 AMMy darling mon pls 4 the sack of dat fine girl mean ur little baby girl in the feature nd 4 God sack pls go back 2 husband ok
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Jayce | 11/27/2012 7:09:17 AMThis is a raelly intelligent way to answer the question.
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