Ten Great Things About Dating Older Women
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Greater independence

Generalisations are no more than that, and Glenn Close was pushing 40 when she did the rabbit thing in Fatal Attraction. But surely one of the most admirable qualities of older women is that they tend to be more independent, more comfortable in their own space, and so less needy.

Chances are she will have experienced being in and out of relationships before, and be less likely to demand you are with her or in constant contact with her or that you are welded together 24/7. Being desired is great, but clingy is awful and she will be cool enough not to do it.

Greater assertiveness

Most of us do not wish to be pushed around, but neither do we wish to decide what to do all the time - or to spend our waking hours trying to second-guess someone. A more mature woman is likely to have a clearer idea of who she is and what she wants.

This can be liberating for both of you, not least because she is less likely to waste time playing games when she knows what she wants - and whether or not you can deliver. She will cut to the chase while her younger, more timid sister is still playing hard-to-get.

Better social skills

Admittedly being more forthright and self-aware can make anyone - male or female, irrespective of age - boring and horribly opinionated. But hopefully with age comes knowledge and sophistication, two crucially important qualities when it comes to being good company.

Most of us fail to notice a good conversation, being happily engaged with the subject matter (and the person talking) rather than analysing what is being said. We notice the bad ones though, and so often the speaker is young, gauche, unsophisticated, lacking in self-confidence, and so so dull.

Better resourced

Older women tend to earn more money than pretty school leavers. That sounds mercenary and, in a sense, it is. But only because in this day and age, one can understand why any male may quail slightly at the thought of picking up the bill every single time.

Clearly it is to be hoped that most men will be gentlemanly, and be chivalrous and traditional enough to do the decent thing when the two of you are out on the town. But it is useful to know that, going forward, she may occasionally return the favour - even if you graciously decline.

Better at dating

Being more grown-up means doing more grown-up things. Sometimes older women will let their hair down, and some may occasionally exhibit vaguely wild-child behaviour. Mostly though they will want to avoid becoming paralytic and throwing up, or cramming onto a deafening dancefloor with another 10,000 sweaty bodies.

Which is as it should be. One of the most important things about dating is getting to know each other, which takes time, patience, and peace and quiet. Where better to start the process than in a smart restaurant, offering good food and discreet but attentive service?

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More experienced

Logic suggests older women will have more experience of relationships than younger ones, meaning she will be better able to handle the inevitable ups and downs. Because of this you can expect someone more measured in her responses and less likely to fly off the handle at the first sign of trouble.

The chances are she will have more realistic expectations too, which must help boost the odds when it comes to your relationship's long-term survivability. Assuming that your own expectations are similarly reasonable, that is, and that you resist the temptation to take the mickey.

More self-reliant

It is good to meet your girlfriend's pals and to get on with them. What you want to avoid, however, is being forced through hoops because - unsure of her own judgement - she won't commit to you until she gets the seal of approval from everyone she went to school with.

Greater self-reliance and independence mean an older woman is much less likely to seek her friends' advice.

She may well ask their opinions and listen to them. But ultimately she will trust her own judgement, recognising that others are not necessarily expert when it comes to knowing what is best for her.

More stable outlook

Experience and maturity mean older people are less likely to wallow in disasters. This might just be because they have been there before - your first failed relationship can feel like the end of everything, but subsequent disappointments are rarely as bad - or just a recognition that life must go on.

By contrast, younger women seem to have more drama in their lives and many revel in the disruption which can be exhausting for others. Eventually even the most compassionate boyfriend will resist getting dragged into yet another crisis - and start looking for someone with a more relaxing style.

Greater intimate experience

Very much the big one and invariably the most commonly cited reason younger men are attracted to older women. And why not? By now we are all old enough to blush at the ineptitude of those early fumblings and to recognise that we get better the more we practise.

Admittedly an older woman may feel slightly insecure about the way she looks Unclad, but then that is true of many younger ones too. Either way, greater experience means knowing more about what turns you on - and more about what turns her on too, so it's a definite win-win.

More perspective

With more going on in her own life and career, a greater sense of herself and a much better idea about what really matters in the world, an older woman is less likely to mess you around and more likely to value the time you spend together.

A cynic might say she has tried what else is out there and simply knows a good man when she sees one. If you are lucky enough to be that man be sure to reciprocate - and to let her know that you take her seriously too

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NFC
lighten | 4/22/2012 1:24:16 PM
Abeg NFC mak una remove all this ugly faces, make person seen road
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nfc
lolo | 4/22/2012 3:19:34 PM |
chidi mokeme and florence ita giwa's picha shld be here too
lol
chimex | 4/22/2012 7:09:09 PM |
lmao nawa ooo our boys dn finish o.ds new trend of marrying old oyibo is something else.ds 1 na real yahoo yahoo
Also,,,more names...
Lalaland | 4/23/2012 3:20:18 AM |
Genefhuckingve
Uche Fat rotten teeth jumbo
Borderline albino monalisa
Rita paki-looking dominic

NFC, make una knack these people name and their pichas for there as well cos they are now classified as old mamas!
chai
Blue way | 4/23/2012 3:37:48 AM |
The 2nd picture is that of lalaland the original f**l and his wife who took him to australia. shame on you lala the real maggot
Thrash
Someone somewhere | 4/22/2012 9:02:25 PM |
Thrash thrash thrash,date older women ? Just greed and laziness
shutup
big skin | 4/23/2012 1:17:10 AM |
u are writing nonsence,cause if u know what people go throuth in europe just because they don,t have papers.one can,t work or move freely.the only option is to get married to thier citizen that way u can get paper to work.so don,t say is laziness.a lot of this guys are from poor family and they need to marry those old oyibo(oldwomen)in oder to get paper to work and take care of their family.
na so o
carbanion | 6/5/2012 4:18:08 AM |
yes that is what our fellow black guy do to survive in europe,
NFc, gr8 things list goes on..
Charisma | 4/23/2012 5:07:14 AM |
Yes ooo NFC anoda great things abt older ladies is dat u call dem granny when u re wit ur GF. Anoda gr8 thing, u cant show/introduce dem to ur family. Again, since dey re no longer fruitful ,its a license 2 b impregnting small smal girls all over d place. Those re d great things i find out abt them.
VISA FREE
U.S.A | 4/22/2012 1:24:25 PM
ENY WAY, WE ALL KN SAY NA POORVATY DE COUSE ALL DIS WEDDING
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love
meyo | 4/22/2012 1:30:19 PM
this is real love or someone should help me out, God av mercy, all in the name of doc.
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Dirty old b***hes.
Ozioma | 4/22/2012 3:42:31 PM
They should all prepared to start WASHING PLATE.
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Ozioma & Seanpaul
Sly | 4/23/2012 2:13:05 AM |
It's obvious you guys don't know what you were talking about.Tell me, if you live alone won't you wash your own plates? These guys were probably on assylum or hiding from the immigration / Police, because they did not have residential permit.They therefore had no permit to work,they can't visit their families in Africa etc,the list is long. If you've not been there/ seen all,please don't be quick to criticize.There is definitely no smoke without fire.
@ozioma
mimi | 4/22/2012 4:24:59 PM
they shd as well be prepared to wash panties as well as cooking and cleaning of bafrums
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Old cargos.
Seanpaul | 4/22/2012 5:09:24 PM
All this nigeria young guys that are marrying this old cargos,also be prepared to WASH PLATE.
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Old cargos.
Seanpaul | 4/22/2012 5:11:06 PM
All this nigeria young guys that are marrying this old cargos,also be prepared to WASH PLATE.
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think about it
MAV | 4/23/2012 2:38:58 AM
hold on ladies, what if you were dat old and lonely won't you get married to someone that young if you got the chance?
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older women
Apple | 4/23/2012 3:07:19 AM
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha........................
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older oyibo women
Banda | 4/23/2012 3:15:13 AM
This is so obvious why they are marrying them. Its for them to get their visas and fly off!! Feel sorry for those desperate oyibo women. Its only a ticket for the young nija boys.
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God 4bid
Nneoma | 4/23/2012 4:27:37 AM
God forbid. How can one marry his gran-mother bcos of some steupid papers or watever. Abeg stay 4 ur country and huzzle, its far better dan rocking a wrinkled smelly body with outworn flabby breast. Money palava, nawa o!!! Imagine d awkward looking pictures self...Mtchewwww!!!.
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u talk wit out thinkin
i don kia | 4/23/2012 4:59:58 AM
Nnaoma u always here on nfc talkin cho.....cho...cho wit out thinkin, u 2 will get old 1 day or do u want 2 die yug?????????????????????????????/
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i don kia
Nneoma | 4/23/2012 6:55:24 AM |
U must be mad to mention my name. Its either u swallow d bitter truth or u choke to death while trying to conceal it. Am sure u must be one of dose miserable boys there, i dnt hav problem wit old age, afterall my grand-father is 103yrs of age. Am sure u will be kind enuf to give out ur sister who may be 25 to 30 yrs of age to my dear grand father 4 marriage just bcos of his wealth...am sure u can do that bcos its written all over u. Mtchewwww!!!.
na wa o
amebo | 4/23/2012 5:14:25 AM
Na waa for nigerian men
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eh
Tick | 4/23/2012 8:04:27 AM
Dat is the game!!!
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Stay home na
Chelsea | 4/30/2012 10:37:44 AM
If abroad no favor U, stay Naija. Some pple wash plates there to survive but if na Naija, dem go claim big boys even 4 dem own house. Dont sell ur dignity 4 a morsel. Abeg, it's not worth it.
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No tym
Richy | 5/6/2012 11:33:27 AM
I c ntin wrong wit it.
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Ok
Man | 5/13/2012 5:53:43 AM
Pls cn some 1 connect me 2 any oyibo am ready 2 wash d plate e.t.c.... Pls don't pity me bcos dis country is mess
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Lalaland don disappear
Dachic | 5/17/2012 7:26:34 AM
Lala'land where are u? This is wia u belong.

How much 've u zapped out from ur gr@t grand mum.
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Haha guys
Scarface | 5/21/2012 2:47:47 AM
Lalaland gossip Jobless dog!!! Go get a life
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Wow
Michael | 5/21/2012 4:15:16 AM
Things de hapenoooo. U de talk abt niger! Wat abt Ghana. Man de marry in fellow man. Dat one eno be madness?
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ha
I am | 5/27/2012 10:22:36 AM
Nneoma u re a f**l, in case u dnt knw, u like talking r*****h. i***t. Put ur self in there shoes nd knw wat it feels like.
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Destiny i'll never change
Magajingiwa | 5/27/2012 10:22:48 AM
Pls let evry one mind his or her business. If that wht 'll some one prosper in life let dem face there destiny. Pls let stop make unvaluable utterances.
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reality
arch | 5/29/2012 11:01:23 AM
Wat u ladies fail to understnd is a white wo¤an can get married to u 4 jst a week and get papers for you. All she cares is d honey moon..its been long. After dat u can run, she won't mind. Nice one guys
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WHITE HUNTERS
Lady T | 6/7/2012 3:15:09 AM
THIS IS NOTHING BUT WHITE HUNTERS, WHY DIDNT THEY MARRY BLACK WOMEN THAT ARE OLDER THAN THEY ARE, OR ARE THEY NO BLACK OLDER WOMEN??????
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I am an Old Oyibo
VegasVixen | 6/7/2012 2:13:03 PM
I am dating a 24 year old man who is in Nigeria. We correspond via email, phone and text message. I am 52 years old, and considered a "Cougar" because I prefer younger men and I can get them as I am not fat, ugly, don't have rotten teeth nor flabby breasts.

So you state that his only goal is to get papers, well you are wrong. He has never asked about them, and has asked me to come to Nigeria instead of him moving to United States. You who comment are probably all under 30 years old....if you are over 24 you are too old and flabby for me. I like them young, juicy and easy to train. Not all of us look like the pictures above. Are those of you making these comments just jealous? Maybe ugly yourselves and can't get a 52 year old grandma no matter how hard you try? Go date creatures of your own age if you cannot HANDLE mature women who know what they want.
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Then let me f**k you
Hotrod | 8/23/2012 2:10:28 AM |
Then send me your picture: rod.brs@gmail.com
SnzsenEuZkx
Kashif | 6/9/2012 7:27:04 AM
while there be some personal pfneereecrs on r32 and r34 s over the r33 and r35. I appreciate what nissan has done to the skyline from r31 right thru to r35. If u look at the WRX and those models they dont even resemble like its previous models now thats wacked. Or how about the CRX gen1 and gen2 look similar then the del sol gen3 was created and yet it was called a crx. There is loads of other manufacturer's who have got the styling cues entirely messed up.But the Nissan Skyline is definately NOT one of them.
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I NO BLAME UNA
DO IT............... | 6/13/2012 12:38:49 AM
UNA STILL DEY 9JA,THEY EAT MAMA-PUT AND DEY USE AGO PAY LATER CREDIT STYLE.ENTER PLANE COME OUTSIDE 9JA AND SEE FOR URSELF.U DEY CALL AM LAZINESS.BROS ENTER PLANE BUT NOT DANA MAKE U NO PAI.EVEN IF U R EDUCATED OR NOT EDUCATED.FIND UR WAY AND GET MARRIED TO 70 YEARS OLD WOMAN.NO LOOK ANYBODY.GOD DEY UR SIDE.U GO MAKE AM.REMAIN BLESS.
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Condition
concerned | 6/17/2012 10:27:08 AM
Na condition make crayfish to bend.To say the truth, most of them do this out of frustration and not 4 love. Here in London, if u don't have permanent residence and not a student, if caught will be displayed.eported without the little money u have worked illegally to get. Under this condition, you will work more and be paid less that is if at all u can get something doing cos immigration is now very tight
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Condition
concerned | 6/17/2012 10:36:52 AM
Na condition make crayfish to bend.To say the truth, most of them do this out of frustration and not 4 love. Here in London, if u don't have permanent residence and not a student, if caught will be displayed.eported without the little money u have worked illegally to get. Under this condition, you will work more and be paid less that is if at all u can get something doing cos immigration is now very tight
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Condition
concerned | 6/17/2012 10:38:09 AM
Na condition make crayfish to bend.To say the truth, most of them do this out of frustration and not 4 love. Here in London, if u don't have permanent residence and not a student, if caught will be displayed.eported without the little money u have worked illegally to get. Under this condition, you will work more and be paid less that is if at all u can get something doing cos immigration is now very tight
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Condition
concerned | 6/17/2012 10:51:37 AM
Na condition make crayfish to bend.To say the truth, most of them do this out of frustration and not 4 love. Here in London, if u don't have permanent residence and not a student, if caught will be displayed.eported without the little money u have worked illegally to get. Under this condition, you will work more and be paid less that is if at all u can get something doing cos immigration is now very tight
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thats good
john | 6/19/2012 9:16:11 PM
Hey pls I need my own wife,am 28 from Nigeria age those not matter if you are ready to settle down with me let's know ourselves very well start preparation you reach on Facebook madumere john or email me talk2johnv@yahoo.com +2347030321043
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i dont care!
lecxy | 7/9/2012 12:09:03 PM
guys.....as for mme,i dont care......if anybody sure intrested be oyibo or naija shouid halla me on 08127923999 or lecxyd@yahoo.co.uk
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ladie
christian | 7/11/2012 10:58:58 PM
i am dating an older lady who loves and care. She is swt and elegant
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obodo oyobo no day easy
meee | 8/11/2012 6:57:30 AM
these people we de talk rubish, some never even cross that our mm airport, do you know what it takes to live in abroad????? man nija na hell, im thinking of how to come carry my family there,
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Anoda man's food is anoda man's p
Mario | 9/1/2012 1:13:16 PM
Age is noting but number.oboy if i see a old white lady nd am in luv with her,age is notin.(my email drmario234@yahoo.com.
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e no tyt
Kc Hills | 9/2/2012 1:04:05 AM
Omo eh ds tn no folo at all.me wt granny?na madness?guys dey try o.hw dem wan tk kiss dem sef,as in una 2 go sitdown 4 parlour she go carry her head kip 4ur shoulder?un2 wetin kwan?e no cm board jare
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link me up
francis | 9/24/2012 10:10:21 AM
Its obvious that most of this people that are against young guys marrying older women are under age and hv not really tested poverty.instead of us to admit that our nigeria economy I?????s????? bad,we busy castigatin youngmen that are tryin to survive.what wd u say abt smone that graduated from d university for over six yrs,yet has not bin able to get a job.abeg jere,I need a lik to an old white woman who can come and tak me out of dis corrupt country.d age I?????s????? 29 and phone no I?????s????? 2348063477099

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26 VS 63
CHINEYE | 11/8/2012 7:20:10 AM
THANK GOD THAT THE BOY DID NOT 4*9 THE OLD WOMAN. HE PROMISED AND HE FULFILLED. CHIKENA
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i love old women
safy | 11/28/2012 9:00:02 AM
i love old women
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i need a lover and soulmate.
smith | 4/1/2013 4:48:00 AM
am very handsome, tall and romantic with a good eductaional background, i need an older woman, of age 38 to 60 for a hot sex affair. U wiil enjoy ur sex life. Try me nd Call me nw 08138260994.
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NO BE LOVE THEM NEED THEM PAPE
MICHAEL | 5/6/2013 7:56:17 AM
FOR ME I WILL DO THAT TO GET WHAT I NEED IN LIVE , IF YOU GO OF OUT YOUR COUNTRY YU WILL THAT WITH DOCUMENT YU GO NO WAY THAT IS AMNY OF THEM NEED TO MARRE D OLD WOMEN
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I wil mary a rich old woman.
Emmy | 5/29/2013 6:45:07 AM
Any woman that is against a young guy marying old woman is jealous. Shikina!
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i NEed a matured lady
Zic | 6/9/2013 12:23:24 PM
Any serious, beautiful, and romantic lady can contact me. I don't really need your Money and I may not be ready to spend mine on you either. This affair is Strictly for COMPANIONSHIP and sexual fulfillment
30C2BFCA.
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